6 Things My Mother Taught Me
A woman should be celebrated every day of her life. A mother however, should be celebrated twice as hard. They do so much for their families that it is almost impossible to not love them. Aside from raising you, they love you with a type of love that is unconditional and a type of love that you will never understand until you are a mother (or parent). Here are six things my mother taught me that are and will always be imperative in my life.
“There’s a time for everything in life. You don’t have to be in a rush to grow up.” I was such an impatient child and at the time I used to think my mom was so irrelevant for telling me to not grow up quickly because that was the only thing I wanted to do. I wanted freedom and I wanted to experience life right there and then. Oh the things I would do to be able to go back and actually listen to what my mother used to tell me when I was younger; I could have saved myself from a lot of pain. Now I know that everything will fall into place when it will and I have never been more okay with that.
2. Worrying Solves Nothing
When in college, you will worry about everything… everything. You will worry about essays, exams, food, rent, friends, financial aid, food, and time (food was put twice on this list on purpose because the struggle to cook for yourself in college is actually very real). There have been times in the past two years that I have called my mother while drowning in tears because life and everything that comes with it is actually terrifyingly overwhelming. And every time I have called her she has reminded me that worrying will never solve or make my situation better. I have learned to work out my worries; to not sit there and wait in tears while whatever it is that I am facing fixes itself.
3. Always Embrace Your Beginnings
This is something that I learned from my mother and something that my dad constantly emphasizes, even today. Whether you came from a lot or came from a little, always remember your beginnings while you are busy making yourself better. Do not forget the people who helped you when you were younger or the friends you made or the things you experienced. Embrace your difficulties and celebrate your victories; never forget.
Respect is something that my mother felt very strongly about. She taught my sister and I that respect is something everyone deserves. My mother constantly reminds us to treat people the way we want to be treated. Although she taught us to respect, she also taught us to be respected. These are two very different things. Just because we want to be the better person in a situation does not mean that we should allow others to disrespect us. Please, always remember this.
“There is a time and there is a place for everything. If you have nothing nice to say, do not say anything at all” (or hold it in until you get home and scream them into your pillow).
5. Work Hard For The Things You Deserve
Just because you believe you deserve something does not mean that you should not work hard for the things you believe you deserve. Work hard, enjoy your time while you do so, and jump around in happiness when you have it. It will only make whatever you want better, because you will know that you worked hard for it.
I thank my mother greatly for teaching me faith. Faith of course varies for every individual. You can have faith in a God, a higher power, people, including yourself. Always have faith that things will be better and most importantly, always have faith in YOU because you are important.
I am blessed to have been raised by a woman who did her best to teach our family her morals about life. If you were raised by a woman, man, a relative, or friend, thank them today and everyday. If you are blessed to have these people in your lives; let them know that. Those people, they are great, and deserve to know the happiness they have brought upon you. To all the mama's, thank you. You are important.